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You can have it all

Have you ever heard it said that now “women can have it all”?  Thanks to feminism and the progression of women in the workforce, we can have a family AND a career.  We can work and raise our children.  We can have it all.  When did being a mother and a wife become not enough?

I propose that we don’t need a career to have it all.  I am content and fulfilled in my vocations as just a wife and mom.  I believe I already have it all.  For me, that does not include working outside of the home.  I left a high paying management position to stay home with my family.  Being a wife and mother can be satisfying and should be a highly respected role-you are not less of a person if you don’t work outside of the home.  Raising our children is no easy task, it’s a daily commitment to making your children your priority.


And all does not have to include a career

Proverbs 22:6  Train up a child in the way he should go;
and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

“Women have been liberated right out of the genuine freedom they enjoyed for centuries to oversee the home, rear the children, and pursue personal creativity; they have been brainwashed to believe that the absence of a titled, payroll occupation enslaves a woman to failure, boredom, and imprisonment within the confines of home.”

The size of our paycheck doesn’t mean we work harder.  Just look at some blue collar vs. white collar jobs to prove that point.  I don’t need to validate financially how much I contribute to the family.  I don’t need to tally up how much we would spend if we outsourced my role.  The following image is all too common:  stay-at-home-mom_pageWe don’t do this for dads.  I could easily list a few items that my husband could be paid for:

  • Counselor
  • Groundskeeper
  • General Maintenance Worker

We often seem bitter about how we are perceived by others.  As stay at home moms, we feel the need to prove our worth to people outside of our home.  It’s almost as if stay at home moms keep their status a secret.  I know my husband values my role as a mom and wife.  I know the benefits for my son and that’s what matters to me.

I have dreamt for years of becoming a stay at home mom.  To have the honor of raising our child(ren-God willing) and making our home a place my husband can’t wait to get to is a blessing.  It is enough, every time I see my son smile, I am enough.

I have it all.

Psalm 127:3  Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

I am encouraging other stay at home mom’s to recognize and advocate that their role is one to be cherished and celebrated.


3 thoughts on “You can have it all

  1. Thanks for this. My children (I have 3) are older now and I really struggle with wanting to work outside the home and yet wanting to be present to my children as well. It’s good to be reminded that mothering has so much value.

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  2. This is great, I wrote something along these lines a few weeks ago about being a stay at home mom and a wife and how it’s enough. It’s so easy to forget that especially if you’re isolated from others but not valuing our worth as stay at home moms, is a tool the enemy uses to break us.

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  3. I don’t think I would function well if I had a job and children. It’s not that I was born to be a homemaker, oh my, not at all. I just feel that I would not be able to do both to the best of my ability. Something would definitely suffer.

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