Positivity and infertility might not seem to go together, but after going through it, I can now see what it taught me. We struggled with infertility prior to our son and are now praying for a sibling for him. For many years, it was a dark and lonely place. However, I learned a lot through our struggles. Believe it or not, there are some positives that can come from the burden of infertility.
I am not a patient person. I consider it one of my biggest faults. When I want something, I want it right then-immediate satisfaction. This experience has taught me that some things are worth waiting for. I’ve learned that the longer you wait for something, the more you can appreciate it when it does come.
We all have our times that we feel sorry for ourselves. I remember feeling especially down about our struggles to conceive when I spoke with a friend who is single. She talked about her struggles and how lonely she felt. It helped put things into perspective. Which brings me to my next point…
We spent the first few years of our marriage praying for a child. Looking back, it’s easy now to see all the blessings we did have. It’s so easy to focus on what you are missing in that moment and miss out on all that you have.
New Friendships and and Strengthened Bonds
As a couple, it was easy to pull away from each other during our battle with infertility. Ultimately, the fight brought us closer together. We prayed together and listened to each others fears.
We also confided in our family and close friends. Their support and willingness to listen made our burden a bit lighter. Just knowing that someone else cared made all the difference. Opening up to others has also created some friendships that I now treasure.
My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worth patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
I wish conceiving a child was easy for us, but the reality is that it was (and is) not. The reality is that we are still blessed in many other ways.