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My boyfriend cheated on me and i cant forgive

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There are only two decisions one can make upon the sickening discovery that your partner has cheated on you and each will ultimately shape the rest of your life: Should I stay or should I go? However I strongly disagree, and this is a topic I am extremely passionate about. Imagine someone who has an affair for instance and ask yourself this — how much time do you think they spent getting to know the individual they would eventually end up having said affair with? What they were doing?

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This Is Why You Shouldn’t EVER Forgive A Cheating Partner

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Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. I'd love to hear from others on this forum if they would forgive and forget if their partner had an affair. Your emotionally abusive husband who enjoys himself with other women, I could never personally believe what he has to say when he says 'it's ended' or 'I haven't sent any videos', he's been caught.

What I'm about to say may sound to be stupid on my part, but I caught my wife ex ringing from a public phone box, not once but 3 times, and the stupid part is that we still talk and see each other on family occasions, but when I caught her the first time I was border line to breaking down, it would have happened, but probably started much quicker, but I never trusted her again, although she refused to admit anything. We all tell lies we all know this, but when the person who we are in love with, sleep with and have sexual relations with, then honesty and trust means so much.

I can't tell you what to do, but I could advice or suggest what to do, but I don't think I need to say. L Geoff. Okay I think monogamy is against human nature and it's morally wrong that it's the expected default relationship, so I'll stay away from that part.

I disagree about monogamy; it's not against human nature, it's against your nature. I don't judge anyone for how they live their life as long as they're honest, up front and the choices do not impinge on anyone else's rights and liberties. What consenting adults do behind closed doors is their own business. Monogamy is not a choice for me. It's who I am. Polyamory is obviously who you are.

Again, horses for courses. Not for me. Makeup makes the wrinkles more prominent. I don't feel comfortable with people looking at me - I didn't even walk down the aisle when I got married many years ago because I didn't want that attention.

I have no money for personal trainers or acting classes not that I'd bother with it and I work night shift so I never get adequate sleep and my sleep is all messed up. All I wanted out of this, really, is to figure out if it's possible to forgive the cheating. He was everything to me. I never stopped showering him with love and compliments. And he told me right from the start that he wanted a loving, monogamous relationship with a woman he could talk to because one day we'd be old and the physical love would have ceased and he wanted to be intimate with conversation when that happened.

He was the one who started the lovey-dovey stuff. I had never been the mushy type till I fell in love with him. Many years ago I commence my dream of living in the hills, alone with my uni student daughter visiting on weekends. Then 5 years ago I married her auntie by marriage. It's still the dream, cabin in the hills but I share it with the most wonderful lady.

And its a 3 bedroom cabin Your question is one you'll need to answer yourself but what my good friend Geoff and I agree on, that neither of us could trust once trust is broken The big step of course- to leave him isn't an easy one. Once its done though is become easier over time. Surely trust can be rebuilt. It'll never be the same, but look at the results of "the same". Today's wisdom seems to be to finish a marriage when trouble starts. I'd give anything to go back and have a frank discussion before our troubles started.

I'd take a bath in boiling oil if I thought there was a snowballs chance in hell of reconciliation. If he's pulling his end of the bargain and trying to change, I'd keep an open mind and try to trust again. However, no change, no chance. Gosh, betrayal is hard to process, especially if it is your partner. We all go through changes in our lives and our 'genetic imprinting' has a lot to do with our behaviour.

Who has not been through a time where silly decisons are made and you probably would not make them again. If you can forgive your partner that is healing, you dont need to forgive the action however. The two are seperate. If it continues as a pattern then ask yourself : Is this life 'healing or harmful' to me. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones.

You are currently: Home Get support Online forums. Online forums Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile Complete your profile. Cancel The title field is required! I'm 40, I left my emotionally abusive husband of 17yrs for a long-distant relationship.

Two years on, he became cold, distant and I noticed some very constant bantering between him and a woman on FB. I confronted him about it when he visited me in April, and he assured me there was no interest on his end.

I figured I was just going through depression and anxiety again and I needed to go back on my meds with the horrible side effects but the panic and suspicion never left. When I went to visit him in July, I needed to use his computer and I found videos he'd made for her during the time he was cold toward me. I confronted him and he assured me he ended it mid-March, had not actually sent the videos I call BS, but that's for him to feel guilty about that it was an ego boost and he'd been angry about something I said and had refused to discuss it.

He appeared to be genuinely sorry for his indiscretion, and as he'd been back to his normal self for a while I figured he had ended it. We exhausted our discussion and made love and immediately he gets a text from her asking if he'd killed their private fb group! He told me he had unfriended her, but he kept a naughty group just for them going? And still texting her? I have since had major trust issues and he has, to his credit, been accepting my verbal beatings and constantly bringing up how hurt I am.

Recently, I joined Twitter and found him there. A lot of the people he's following are gorgeous women who's profile pics are them with bikini or less and he commented just a few days ago on one of them who posted a selfie.

I went off the handle figured I don't need meds because I was right about him cheating after all - it wasn't in my head. I can't handle his perving.

I have severe body dysmorphia and obsessive compulsive personality disorder with my anxiety and depression. A little discretion would have been appreciated so I stop thinking I'm the equivalent of a microwave dinner, rather than the fillet mignon he saw at a restaurant. I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust him again because I never forgive; but I can't seem to end it.

We do have many really great memories and I WANT to go back to that serotonin high I had last year and the year before while I felt like the only woman in his mind. Now I feel like I'm just the woman who is ugly enough for a shy guy to feel comfortable talking to while he's thinking of someone else.

Has anyone else with these sorts of problems been able to truly forgive? Hi Kree, welcome I'd love to hear from others on this forum if they would forgive and forget if their partner had an affair.

Personally No Tony WK. Trust is a main priority for me and if it's tarnished once I would move on. All of us are attracted to someone and instantly fall in love with them, but it's only platonic.

Vegetarian Marshmallow. Hi Kree, They say "never say never" but I get your point. I wish you luck with which ever way you go. Well Being Coach. Hi, Gosh, betrayal is hard to process, especially if it is your partner. Stay in touch with us Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. Sign me up. Your session is about to expire. You have 2 minutes left before being logged out. Please select 'ok' to extend your session and prevent losing any content you are working on from being lost.

10 women explain why they forgave their partners for cheating

Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. I'd love to hear from others on this forum if they would forgive and forget if their partner had an affair. Your emotionally abusive husband who enjoys himself with other women, I could never personally believe what he has to say when he says 'it's ended' or 'I haven't sent any videos', he's been caught. What I'm about to say may sound to be stupid on my part, but I caught my wife ex ringing from a public phone box, not once but 3 times, and the stupid part is that we still talk and see each other on family occasions, but when I caught her the first time I was border line to breaking down, it would have happened, but probably started much quicker, but I never trusted her again, although she refused to admit anything.

When someone cheats , it can be very difficult for the individuals in a relationship to recover. While some people choose to end a relationship with someone who has cheated, others find ways to forgive their partner and move forward.

When infidelity happens, it can be challenging to decide what to do next. These men chose to forgive their partners and move forward with their partners— for better or for worse. Here, eight men discuss how and why they decided to forgive their partners after learning that they had cheated. The next day she called me crying and told me everything. She got drunk, they were dancing at a club and she made a stupid mistake.

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By Tracey Cox. As yet another celebrity marriage seems to have bitten the dust with Blurred Lines Robin Thicke and wife Paula Patton announcing their split after twenty years, the question of how to recover from an affair seems more and more apt. While it's not clear what was the actual cause of the couple's parting, there have been many rumours of indescretions on Robin's part and few things compare with the pain of betrayal. Then, overnight, with a confession or a discovery, that bubble bursts. And boy does it burst with a bang. Some couples do survive infidelity but only if both of you honestly think the relationship is worth it and the guilty person is prepared to do everything it takes to win back your trust and love. This will help you decide and guide you through the process of recovery.

8 men share why they forgave their partners for cheating

No matter how long you and your partner have been together or how serious your relationship seems, people are always human, which means they make mistakes. Forgiveness is no easy feat, especially when it comes to cheating. Forgiving someone for almost anything else is probably easier than forgiving them for cheating! Jealous of an ex? I can forgive you.

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Aug 21, - Topic: Boyfriend cheated - I can't forgive I'm 40, I left my emotionally abusive husband of 17yrs for a long-distant relationship. I confronted him and he assured me he ended it mid-March, had not actually sent the videos (I.

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